|Published: December 2012
Letting them in on the secret
Iím in a very fortunate position when it comes to my finances. Iím 25, and I make $50,000 a year. Iím also completely debt-free. In your opinion, when is it appropriate to let someone youíre dating know about your financial situation?
Wow, you are in a great position for someone so young. Iím not sure how you got there, but it certainly wasnít by being dumb or immature. I think itís only natural in a dating situation to reveal more about oneself as time passes and the relationship gets deeper and more serious. In my mind, people who start throwing around financial information on a first date are either extremely superficial or just plain weird. But after youíve been dating a while, and definitely before youíre engaged, you should know everything about the other person. There should be complete disclosure in every area of your lives. Thatís called intimacy. Thereís no room for skeletons in the closet when it comes to a healthy relationship. Just take your time and make sure youíre both committed to being open and honest about things. Then, as the relationship progresses, the depth of intimacy and the depth of information will progress in all areas of your lives.