My wife is divorcing me, and we just had our first baby boy. I feel itís my responsibility to take care of her until the divorce is final, and to keep her in a safe vehicle. Sheís driving a 1982 Honda Civic, and itís so small any kind of wreck could be a disaster. Iím thinking about buying her a new car. What do you think?
Iím really sorry you guys are going through all this, especially with a brand new baby
in the mix. I appreciate your nobility and attitude about the situation, but you need to realize that once youíre divorced, itís no longer your responsibility to take care of her. Divorce carries a lot of emotional stress and worry for everyone involved, but I donít think buying her a new car will solve anything. It may actually lead her to expect even more from you later on.
Iím going to take a wild guess that the truth of the matter is youíre worried about your child, and this whole thing is breaking your heart. Thatís natural, Mike. It means you love your baby. But a ďsafeĒ car doesnít have to mean a brand new car
. You could put her in an old Suburban and sheíd be safe, because those things are tanks!
If it were me, and the relationship couldnít be salvaged, Iíd find a large used car Ė one that either one of you can pay for with cash Ė and let her drive off into the sunset. But spend every second you can hugging and loving on your little boy, and make sure youíre a fixture in his life. Heís going to need someone like you.