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Published: August 2011
Sisters Should Have Asked!  

Dear Dave,

Iím one of five sisters, and our parentsí fiftieth wedding anniversary is just around the corner. My two oldest sisters made plans for a party without consulting the rest of us. Now, they want everyone to chip in $1,000 to help pay for things. Iím trying hard to get out of debt, and I just donít have that kind of money right now. How can I be fair about this?

Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

A $5,000 party is pretty big stuff. Since you werenít asked about this ahead of time, and had no say in anything, fair would be for you not to pay a dime! That kind of planning without consulting the people involved and helping pay for the event is way out of line.

Donít let your big sisters lay a guilt trip on you, either. This has nothing to do with how much you love your parents. It has everything to do with communication and consideration, or in this case, a lack of these things on their part.

Just let them know, in a firm but loving way, what your situation is right now. Tell them youíd be happy to chip in what you can, but it wonít be anything close to $1,000.

And tell them next time to check with their little sisters before hatching up an expensive plan like this!

óDave

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